By Scot McKay Have you ever been told you were being too shallow when you expressed to someone what you were looking for in a partner? I know I have. If we say we want our future mate to look a certain way, we get the shallow routine from people we talk to. Numerous women Ive talked to report that they draw similar disdain when they say they want an intelligent man. (Hmmmso why dont men hear that when they express such a desire for the woman they hope to meet?) Furthermore, we all know what a womans going to hear if she says she hopes for a mate who is financially successful. My educated guess is its probably something similar to what a guy hears when he talks about what kind of body his future mate should have. So is there anything to this accusation of being shallow as single people in particular so often hear? Should we all lighten up on potential dates? After allwhat we are hoping and dreaming of is a bit unreasonable, isnt it? My answer is unequivocally NOT. If refusing to settle for any less than the mate I am going to be thrilled to be with is shallow, than Im a kiddie pool among men. Youd better believe it. After all, I plan to spend the rest of my life with this woman, so why should I settle for half-hearted unfulfillment of broken dreams? My personal pet peeve is when someone tells me, You shouldnt be so picky. After allyou arent perfect. Wellumexactly. And who is perfect, for that matter? I happen to believe that people who are perfect, whoever they are, must have a really hard time finding someone to date. After all, who is good enough for someone who is perfect? Kind of an ironic twist, isnt it? My opinion is that we tend to be attracted to people who look a lot like us, have the same values as we do, and share other similar thingslike a sense of humor, for example. My girlfriend (and podcast princess) Emily disagrees. She thinks people tend to go for someone who is a lot different than they are. You know, the old we complete each other bit. Well, here it is: it really doesnt matter which one of us has it figured out. Neither situation involves someone going after a perfect person, does it? Whether I want to find someone who is a lot like me or who completes me shes not a Barbie doll. When were considering who it is that we want to spend the rest of our life with out of the six billion souls on Planet Earth, I hereby declare that each and every one of us has every right to consider very diligently exactly who that person should be and which traits he or she should have. In fact, I highly recommend you do so. And once you do that, make sure you are the kind of mate who is going to make that person equally thrilled to spend a lifetime with you. Deserve what you want. Copyright 2006 X & Y Communications Want to hear more? Scot McKay is a dating coach in San Antonio, TX and founder of X & Y Communications, a one-stop-shop for dating resources. He is the author of the new book Deserve What You Want, and hosts the popular podcast series X & Y On The Fly. He may be reached at scot *at* xandycommunications.net or on the Web at http://www.dating-advice.us/ and http://www.datetoorder.com/ . The podcast series is available free of charge at feeds.feedburner.com/xyonthefly . Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Scot_McKay http://EzineArticles.com/?Am-I-Being-Shallow,-Or-Am-I-Just-Not-Settling?&id=293417 zolpidem in india
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